Monday, October 13, 2008
I just had a birthday, and sometimes birthdays make you think...who am I? Where did I come from? How did I become the person I am?
I am one of those people you hear about whose life is turned upside down in one instance. When I was 14 years old (it was Christmas Vacation for those who wonder why I hate Christmas) my grandfather told me that my 'dad' was not my real 'dad'.
This bit of information rocked my world...some things immediately made sense. Like why my little sister always got everything she wanted and I always felt like an outsider.
I was the outsider, the proverbial 'red-headed stepchild' and now I knew why I always felt that way.
When finally confronted with the fact that the truth was finally out, my mother did what she always did. Lie.
So here is the reason for this post. I don't know who my 'real' sperm donor is. It's not as important to me to find out about him (except for medical history) but I think it could answer so many questions about who I am. I could have brothers and sisters out there who are just as related to me as the one I grew up with. People I were never allowed to know due to the selfishness of my 'mother'. She wanted to pretend and forget her real life and make up one that she preferred instead.
It doesn't work that way, I wish it did.
Here is what I know:
When I was in my 30's (after years of asking) my mother finally produced a picture she had been promising. I cried...he looked just like the Oldest Boy and I thought "how could you keep this from me for all of these years?"
I was born in Duncan Oklahoma, on September 26, 1967. He was possibly in the military (Army) since that is the kind of man my mother tried to 'trap', remember the movie Officer and a Gentleman?
She said he was German, an Aunt told me he was Italian, he may have had to wear glasses.
She told me his name yet I could never find anyone IN THE WORLD with that name, living or dead, so one night I asked her to write it down. Still, no matches anywhere.
On the back of the photo it reads, "Brad, with love always"
Is it wrong for me to want to know?
Anyway, here is the info, I sent this to Troy Dunn but they haven't answered.
I want this to become the next internet 'hoax' only it's real.
Help me find out who he is, someone knows him. Leave me MANY comments so maybe Troy Dunn with think my case is worthy of his show.
Thanks for reading.